"Just as soon as I catch up with my work, then I'll relax," we say. Then I'll be there for you. Then I'll make it up to you. Then I'll show you how much I love you. Another time, another place, a different environment, a better situation, a more golden opportunity. Just as soon as...
Years ago, I lost a part of my extended family in an airline crash. When search teams found the five bodies in the wreckage, the two parents had their arms around the three little ones. The passengers who had survived the crash must have quickly realized that the smoke and flames sweeping through the aircraft gave them no chance to survive. Trapped, the parents held the little ones until the end. "Just as soon as..." got taken away.
- Robert K. Cooper (The Other 90%)
My family and I had an auto accident this weekend. While driving, I lost control of the car on black ice, flipping the car going 60 mph, the car landing in the ditch on the passenger side, my wife, son, and myself getting out of the car about 2 minutes before it burst into flames... Thankfully, and miraculously, my son was unharmed and my wife and I got by with bumps and bruises. In the moments before the crash, I had three, virtually simultaneous, thoughts; "Oh S***!", "This car is going to flip", and "I'm sorry I couldn't protect you". l almost had my "Just as soon as..." taken away.
Since writing two articles for Dan John's Get Up! newsletter, I've taken a few questions here and there on training time-management tips for new and expecting fathers. I've trained twice since the accident, but I think it's worth reminding ourselves that "...in the gym and out, it’s ALL quality time". Find time for your training, yes, and always remember what is most important and the legacy you want to leave after your "Just as soon as..." is taken away.